I am a bit of a hopeless romantic. I often find myself thinking about love and what it means. I don’t think that being a “hopeless romantic” is a bad thing, but there are times when I have to dial it back a good bit (anyone who knows me
probably certainly knows this). I am easily captivated by beauty.
Lately I’ve been thinking about how much of my captivation is fueled by an appreciation of beauty, and how much is fueled by a desire to be loved. There is nothing wrong with attraction or the desire to be loved when kept in check. But these things can quickly cross over into the realm of idolatry.
I have to often step back and evaluate where I am in my relationship with Jesus when I feel lonely or when I find myself dreaming about the ideal relationship. All of these ideas come from a place of brokenness.
A major question that has been helpful in taming a romantic heart:
Is my longing to be loved overpowering the love that Christ has already poured out on me?
So, hopeless romantic Christians, Let’s take a step back together and evaluate where our concepts of love are coming from.
Are they worldly in nature?
Are they based off of our own ideal relationships?
Is what we’re longing for realistic?
Are we looking for the perfect man or woman to give us the kind of love that Christ can only give?
After that quick heart check, it may be time to go before God and repent. If you need to do this now, please take the time to talk to God. I’ll wait 🙂
We are fallible creatures, meaning that we are not perfect. Heartbreak will always exist until Jesus comes back. There will always be broken relationships and families. There will always be a longing for temporary satisfaction when there are pleasures forevermore at the right hand of God (Psalm 16:11).
Let’s evaluate this together and become better about finding our identities in Jesus rather than some form of ideal relationship. I believe that God want’s us to be in healthy relationships one day , but I also believe that if our hope is set in a relationship and not in Jesus then failure is eminent.
Only from the overflow of Jesus love in our own lives will we be able to extend an unbroken form of love to a future significant other.
So, when you are lonely, cling to Jesus.
When you are tired, cling to Jesus.
When you feel unloved, cling to Jesus.
When you feel unlovable, cling to Jesus.
When you are tired of being single, cling to Jesus.
He wants your identity to be rooted in Him, then it will be possible to tame the romantic heart and see through the noise to what God has promised.
Cling to Jesus.
Scripture to Consider:
“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? As it is written,
“For your sake we are being killed all the day long;
we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.”
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”