Last week a bought of sadness hit me like a ton of bricks.
It always hits at the most inopportune time.
Life has been nothing short of fantastic, then it hits you.
I thought my issue was with loneliness.
I thought my issue laid in unwanted singleness.
But it goes so much deeper than that.
and until this past week, I didn’t have a name for the struggle.
I opened up to a friend about this and his words were so incredibly encouraging.
(if i butcher this I’m sorry brother)
What you’re struggling with sounds like longing, and that’s not something that will go away. Once you’re in a relationship, you’ll long for marriage. Once your married, you may long for kids. Once you have that you may long for a better job…the list can be many many many pages long…
I never even thought of this. It was a completely foreign concept until Tim mentioned it.
The issue wasn’t unwanted singleness or loneliness or scars from the past.
The issue is LONGING.
Longing can be defined as a yearning desire, or a strong, persistent desire or craving, especially for something unattainable or distant.
Navigating new relational waters and new waters in my walk with Christ has been as rewarding as it’s been stressful, and the concept of longing never even crossed my mind.
He opened up about his own struggles with longing and said this, which I remember very vividly:
“I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know, but unless your satisfaction is in Jesus, you will never be satisfied. You will always be longing for more, no matter what stage of life you are in.”
This rocked my world a good bit.
In essence what longing tells us is:
ONCE I HAVE ___________ I WILL BE HAPPY.
But, follower of Jesus and those who have yet to discover him, If your satisfaction is not in Jesus, you will continue to long for temporal things, broken cisterns that will never satisfy our thirst.
So, let me challenge you:
What would you fill in that blank with?
What are you longing for?
What are you seeking for satisfaction?
Everyone wants to be happy.
Everyone is on a search for fulfillment.
Find your fulfillment in Jesus and everything else will fall into place.
Please forgive me for my shortfallings. Please forgive me for my lack of faith in light of relationships. Satisfy my longings, for you, O LORD, are the only one who can satisfy. Satisfy me and make me thirsty for more of you. Make your love sufficient for today.Give me hope for tomorrow.
Scripture to Consider:
11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare[a] and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; he who comes to Me will not hunger, and he who believes in Me will never thirst.
John 7: 37-39
“…“If anyone thirsts, let him come to me and drink.Whoever believes in me, asf the Scripture has said, ‘Out of his heart will flow rivers of living water.’”
2 Cor, 4:7-18
But we have this treasure in jars of clay, to show that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us. We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies. For we who live are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh. So death is at work in us, but life in you.
Since we have the same spirit of faith according to what has been written, “I believed, and so I spoke,” we also believe, and so we also speak, knowing that he who raised the Lord Jesus will raise us also with Jesus and bring us with you into his presence. For it is all for your sake, so that as grace extends to more and more people it may increase thanksgiving, to the glory of God.
So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.